This ruler seems to be benign where it comes to a painful lesson. That is exactly what Hailey thought last year, when she chose it for her birthday spanking from me. The paddling had such a response from her, that Clips4Sale actually banned it. I went back and forth with them regarding their 'appears to be' language and eventually won. Long story short, she hates the biting sting of the ruler. This time I chose it and although not happy about that selection, she accepted it. She had learned that when it came down to her punishments, that I was the final say in that regard. That is what makes Hailey so amazing (outside of her movie star looks of course) She has embraced disciplinary spankings completely and the benefits it has brought forth in her life.