The reason I keep this paddle close (besides the strength and sting factor that is) is that it was made by a vanilla guy, for his spanko wife. There is a way that vanilla women are taken into the fold (as I have done countless times) It takes patience and a balance of stern-compassion. It sounds like a two-sided coin that doesn't make sense. Take them along too fast... You lose them. Take them along too slowly...you lose them. You be too nice...You lose them. You are too stern from the beginning...you lose them. This guy, who thought all he had to do was make a paddle to enter her desired world, is a constant reminder of this needed patience. Hailey was brought about slowly. From model to submissive, she learned at a pace, which saw no panic from the pain, as long as she felt is helped her... and it has.