When Hailey gave me a time of arrival and she was over ten-minutes later than that, I just figured she had stopped for something. I casually asked her before this last spanking, what caused her to be late? Now, she could have made something up, but our relationship is not based on things like that. If I ask her a question, she will give me the honest answer, even if it means she gets spanked for it or not. in this case she said she was distracted, when looking for a new song to listen to, missing the exit. She had been here nineteen times before, so I thought that was odd. She admitted she was looking down at her phone, as she was driving. She knew that was one of my rules as to never do. She knew that she was going to be spanked for it, but also knew it was for an action she deserved to punished for. This foundation is what makes this disciplinary understanding work.